Underdeveloped is right there

They are the same picture meme

Yeah I thought about the same.

I think the another state part was partially covering up what he actually meant with the ‘us’ before it. The way he phrased it ‘us’ could mean either he was hoping the shooter wasn’t a conservative or that it was an out of country/state citizen who was not his problem. I think he meant the conservative interpretation and added the out of state part as a rhetorical tactic to disguise or professionalize his real intent.

relevant quote for reference: “For 33 hours, I was … I was praying that if this had to happen here, that it wouldn’t be one of us. That somebody drove from another state, somebody came from another country,” he said. “Sadly, that prayer was not answered the way I hoped for. Just because I thought it would make it easier on us if we could just say ‘Hey, we don’t do that here.’”

Out of state is a charitable interpretation, a more cynical one would be a conservative leaning individual instead of a liberal or minority.

Not sure, but I’d bet it’s less than flipphones / dumbphones. For the average person, smartphone and android/apple are probably synonymous.

I don’t think of it as an insult generally, but it reads like an insult in this context to me since you certainly weren’t using it a clinical sense and it doesn’t land as a joke imo; now you can say that’s all on me if you want but communication has 2+ parties involved. Even if it wasn’t meant as an insult, it is still ableist language in this context imo and I will call it out even if it makes people uncomfortable.

I really don’t understand why people find it acceptable to make a joke where the punchline is accusing someone of having a mental illness.

To me there is very little difference between that and putting someone down.

Why is it funny to accuse someone with making a minor correction of having OCD?

Sorry, I didn’t mean to strike a nerve. Also sorry to hear you and your spouse have some difficulties with mental and physical challenges in today’s world. I hope you can find some understanding people to cooperate with.

Intent deducing should also go both ways, I did interpret your posts in a somewhat light-hearted manner in line with the comm vibe, but it also just doesn’'t sit right with me using real disorders people have as an insult. I replied in it in the same format as you did but you seemed took offense when I did it even though you used the same format in your comment.

Anyway, I wish you good luck in your journey and thanks for reading.

Also I wonder is that spelling intentional pedant bait? Probably not, but it is in my head canon :)

^ This is a person using OCD as an insult and helping to spread ableist language.