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Favorite DE: Niri First DE used: XFCE DE you want to use in the future: Niri Honorable Mention: Hyprland least favorite: Anything non tiling, or maybe Hyprland due to a lot of minor annoyances Current DE: Niri longest used DE: i3 Current Distro: NixOS and Arch

You should try Niri!

Favorite distro: NixOS First distro used: Ubuntu Distro you want to use in the future: SixOS, Asahi Honorable mention: Fedora Server Distro you liked the least: Ubuntu Distro you currently use: Arch, NixOS The distro you used for the longest time: Arch

https://niri-wm.github.io/niri/Overview.html#backdrop-customization

Thanks, that makes sense. I was hoping you could have it “reveal” the bar as you zoom out into the overview. I assume this would basically make it pop in, although I suppose the bar could be set to fade in which would look nice…

How do you get the bar to only show on overview? I’ve always been a no bar type person and found them distracting, but I do feel like I’m missing out by not using noctalia…

I think you can and should start hrt secretly. Most people will be veeery slow to notice.

Which brings me to my conundrum. Is it wrong to identify with a label if there is no way of achieving it? Like if there is no surgical possibility of transitioning to the body that I want, am I still trans?

It’s absolutely not wrong. Labels aren’t about what you do with your body, it’s about how you feel.

As a nonbinary person, I officially give you permission to identify as nonbinary, trans, or both. 🤝 I like ‘nonbinary’ because it’s really broad and inclusive, and doesn’t have some of the connotations that the term ‘trans’ has (even though nb is under the trans umbrella) I think it would be very reasonable if you decide that it fits you.

Thanks for the reply.

I’m definitely keeping Arch on my PC, I was just wondering what is the best way to use it for both desktop and couch gaming. I do have an old steam link I could potentially use, but I don’t know how that would really work. (I think I’d need to keep my PC running 24/7 for a seamless experience), but otherwise I was thinking I’d probably use the compute stick or Pi as the HTPC and stream games from the PC, but again that sounds a bit clunky to me, although I could at least watch stuff without the main PC on. Thoughts?

My other takeaways from your reply are that:

• It’s a good idea to separate out home assistant from everything else

• Network stuff doesn’t have to be separate

I’ll also research using cloud DNS instead.

I bet it’s just Linux with a skin.

Yeah I just skimmed the essay, and it’s pretty bad. There’s a lot of false claims, a lot of misunderstandings and misrepresentations, and a lot of thinly veiled transphobic phrases and remarks.

It just comes across as very dishonest to me. Although maybe she actually thinks she is being fair, thoughtful and caring, who knows.

Yes, and it also lets me use my neovim config.

It doesn’t edit the file directly, it creates a temp file that replaces the file when saving. It means that the editor is run as the user, not as root.

It’s hard to say without knowing what sort of a friendship you have and what she’s like, but I think you should really consider telling her how you feel– about her, or at least how you feel in general.

They took a bunch of rich women, dressed them up in objectifying skintight suits, then flew them to space for 10 minutes in a glorified plane ride on the second richest guy’s dick shaped rocket. And we’re supposed to be “inspired”, meanwhile women who are actual rocket scientists and astronauts are being erased and removed from NASA’s web site because “woke dei” or whatever.

I think it’s redundant. I wish the community didn’t keep its slightly cringeworthy reddit name, but it doesn’t make sense to have essentially a copy of the same thing under a new name, especially when it doesn’t have a lot of posts to start with.

dissociate

I can relate to a lot of what you’re feeling. Being AMAB nonbinary is really hard. I feel envious of pretty much everyone else: of AFAB nonbinary people who have so much more space given to them by society, of binary trans people who feel euphoria and clarity when transitioning, and may eventually pass, but most of all of cis people who just naturally fit in as who they are.

I’m currently taking low dose estrogen, but it’s not really having the effects I’d like yet and I’m constantly feeling conflicted about it, unsure whether I should double it or stop it.

However I would really recommend that you DO try HRT, as it’s worth exploring, and it has mental effects as well. It’s an incremental process, so you’ll be able to boymode without difficulty for quite a while, and you can stop whenever if it’s not what you want. And if you are wanting to wear makeup and jewelry etc. looking more feminine, even subtly, will actually make you stand out less.

Lastly, there are plenty of good women out there that will pick up on your feminine side and accept you. I have friends including cis women who I think genuinely don’t view me as a man, despite me still appearing as such.

I haven’t figured out how to date though. It’s really rough being too feminine for straight women and too masculine for gay women. I’ve never been able to fulfill gendered expectations, when I experience a sapphic style of attraction, and I’m terrified of being seen as a creepy aggressive man.