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Whether conscious or not is up for debate but race is often used in movies around the world to show the contrast between good/attractive/wealthy (white) vs bad/ugly/poor (dark skinned) characters. Even within the same country, main characters are white and tall while servants and background characters are darker and shorter.

I know it’s not even about local populations in the US because a lot of immigrants in LA specifically are light-skinned but those actors usually end up playing white characters more often.

Can I eat experience too or…?

I’m so disappointed to see the weird reactive hatred for women (and the gaslighting about it regardless of how obvious it is!) is not exclusive to reddit threads. It didn’t even used to be so prevalent on reddit either back in the day (although the objectification did use to be way worse), so this is signaling to me that it’s actually a cultural shift and young boys are becoming more hostile towards women :(

As for the title, why did it have to be gendered in the first place? And why get so defensive about the gendering? We all know everyone of all genders does this shit. That’s not groundbreaking information.

You just explained the connotation and presented it as a difference in definition, but an ultimatum is just attaching consequences to a “hard boundary” or “deal-breaker.” Usually, the consequence is just walking away from the relationship. I know in real life it often does turn abusive, and you can have an abusive ultimatum, “have sex with me or I will hurt you,” but it’s not inherently abusive.

Even your examples are ultimatums but said more kindly.

“I feel neglected when you play video games so much instead of spending time with me, what can we do to find something that works for both of us. If we can’t find a solution, I worry about the sustainability of our relationship”

The boundary is “being in a relationship with someone who plays video games so much” and, assuming the status quo is not acceptable, what turned it into an ultimatum is “I worry about the sustainability of our relationship.” I.e., I’m going to break up with you if you don’t play less video games than you are now. Just because you would like to stay in the relationship and keep playing video games at the same rate does not make it abusive. What would make it abusive is if there’s a pattern of manipulation that puts the ultimatum in a negative context.

That’s a cool concept that I’m gonna find a way to incorporate into my vocabulary from now on

As someone somewhere between junior and intermediate developer, I will say vibe coding on my personal projects has accelerated my learning so much on the proper way to code things so much more than constantly bugging my seniors who don’t have time to properly review and critique my code (because surprise surprise! We’re understaffed). At least now I can ask Claude to explain its approach and fact check it myself, and the times I’ve had it run too loose, I’ve gotten practice debugging code I’m unfamiliar with since Claude eventually hits a point where it fucked something up and has no idea how to fix it. But obviously the caveat is you have to approach it as a learning tool not an automation tool.

Yeah this is not surprising because at the end of the day, the degree is a class signal. The upper class want a system where their kids don’t have to put in much work to benefit and that requires increasingly impossible barriers of entry for the lower classes. You having the balls to call the bluff worked out in your favor, and you’re definitely not the first to figure it out.

Some of these commenters are so naive. Loads of kids pay their way into Harvard and Yale, then party through them, easily get the degree (because learning and discipline is not the point, the point is the exclusivity and the network), and then get a job through their family or family’s connections where they don’t actually have to know anything to do it.

If that’s not already on a shirt it should be

Genuine question, what are the alternatives not called Azure/GCP?

I need the book version of a remix between 1984 and Brave New World. I think even Huxley agreed that Orwell’s dystopia was more realistic than his in certain aspects.

It’s exactly what you’re imagining, yes, even that.

I don’t even see a point in commenting on the current version of reddit anymore (and I haven’t for a couple of years). You’re either replying to bots or about to get into a useless argument with a bad faith actor. I’ll gladly comment on reddit alternatives because it’s a better experience for me and it’s more likely to get other people to make the switch.

as they keep firing people to the point that none of the competent people I got to know over the years works there anymore, it’s only new joiners or incompetents left

So many companies these days are run entirely by burnt out competent people and well-meaning but entirely untrained new joiners that I’m surprised more haven’t imploded yet.

Obviously they are ADHD with a train hyperfixation /s