I feel like I started too late. There’s no hope for me of ever passing… I’m so freaking dysphoric

  • isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 months ago

    (Please take this kindly.)

    I’m truly, honestly not sure whether this is a troll/bait post or just someone with severe confidence issues. But I’ll assume the latter until proven otherwise. You would hardly be the first passing trans gal that’s convinced themselves they’re hopeless. Gender dysphoria is a bitch like that.

    Girl, at least from what I can tell in this photo, you already pass. If you find yourself not passing in public, there are a few possibilities. It might be something that we can’t see in a front-facing photo, but can be seen in side profile. It might be your voice. It might be mannerisms. But even if you’re getting read male in public, it’s no reason to doom. If it’s voice or mannerisms, well you can change those. If it’s side profile, that does require FFS to change, but that hardly means you’re doomed.

    But really, from the photo, I would say it’s mostly in your head. If you hadn’t told me you were trans, I wouldn’t have known.

    • McUberStein@lemmy.zipOP
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      2 months ago

      I swear this isn’t a troll. I truly do have severe confidence issues along with terrible anxiety.

      This is honestly just a good-ish photo and I’m definitely not passing. I still boymode in public for that reason.

      It’s really hard to get out of my head. My bf keeps complimenting me, so do my friends, but it’s way too easy to dismiss them. I’m sorry this post seemed like a troll.

      I will need FFS for my profile: mainly my forehead. However, reading all of these comments, I’m getting slightly more hopeful. Thank you, kind stranger 🩷

      • isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        2 months ago

        Do you actually know if you pass or not? Have you tried girl moding? It might surprise you if you haven’t.

        And sorry, I didn’t mean to accuse you of anything. I definitely get the confidence issues. I’ve dealt with them myself.

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        2 months ago

        You look like a girl to me. My husband’s cousins both have a body profile similar to yours, so I can say with confidence you have a fem bod.

        Maybe if you’re getting tagged as a boy still, it’s your voice? Speech classes might help.